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8/8/2022

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For all those wondering- here is an update-
We are still in the bus but a couple let us park on their land by their barn which has been an enormous gift!
Secondly we need each other, I needed that friend who hugged me as I cried. Ya know what- I have cried a lot in the last 6 months- I used to hold that pain/ sorrow in but it’s not healthy.
Many people have said they couldn’t have made it through what we have in the past 7 years. You know how you get through back to back loss, trauma, pain and hardships? Processing and healing with others with similar loss.
I know for some of your it’s easier to keep it all inside, but it’s stored there in your brain and it will keep circling back around until you’re able to share and start healing. Glossing over the darkness for the sake of a redemptive story only perpetuates trauma.
I’ll be the open book.
God remembers the evil that caused our traumas. He saw the deeds of darkness. Some of us experience very little while others get a double dose.
One day, he will bring all of it into the light with crystal clarity and perfect justice.
If you’re wondering how to support someone like myself who has experienced loss and trauma or someone else in your life, here’s a bit of advice I will offer.
Be safe:
It’s of incredible value to offer a safe presence; free from judgment, shame and pat answers.
I often find it difficult to talk to people who haven’t experienced the trauma of financial loss as we have in the last seven years, I just shut down when they try to say “yeah I had to dip into my savings account and it was difficult, or one time we had to make a move and we didn’t get $80,000 for our house rather we got $40,000
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Y’all- that makes it worse. Just be their friend, just be available, tell them you don’t understand why they’ve had to endure so much, but you can see that they are strong. 
Help- see a need and fill it.
Pray with them.
Cry with them.
Love them.- see a need and fill it.
Pray with them.
Cry with them.
Love them.
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